As children, hearing the fable of the pot-o-gold at the end of the rainbow, we were relentless in pursuing the rainbow. We were always sure that sooner or later we would find that pot-o-gold. We dream often, asleep and awake, about possibilities, hopes, passions, life, work, and family. Creating a life that involves dreams is, plain and simple, hard work. Whenever we chase a dream, getting an education, moving to a new city, a new country, taking a new job, stepping out as an entrepreneur, we are often times expecting to find our pot-o-gold. Unfortunately, life has a funny way of disappointing our dreams and disrupting our plans.

When things don't go our way we begin to feel vulnerable. At times, we might revert to one of our childhood tendencies to feel that the world owes us a better result. I'm often disappointed that this is not the way the world works.  Many dream-chasers have demonstrated the most charming and wonderfully optimistic personalities. Over time, with unmet expectations causing so much disappointment, I've seen them (myself included) succumb to despair, negativity, and a belief that something is wrong with whom they are as a human being.

Disappointment is a common companion to the journey in search of the pot-o-gold. Getting discouraged and disappointed is normal. Feeling sad and angry is common. These unwelcome emotions are normal for anyone experiencing minor transitions in life, let alone major transitions. The emotional journey to establish a new life, a new dream, can really take its toll. If you let it control you and you begin to feel that you are the problem, you will surely undermine any chance you have for success.

So, simply put, I want you to know, don't OWN any of the negativity that will come up. It will come up. You will experience many negative emotions. It does not mean that you are the problem. It means that you are struggling with disappointment. It means that you are human. Remind yourself often of the goodness that is in you, the capabilities that you have, and that you are an intelligent, able individual. Often times, our patience wears out before the goals are achieved.

Nothing in life is easy and many people find themselves picking up the pieces of their life and starting over. Whenever you feel sorry for yourself, don't blame, just accept. It only is what it is. You are human and like others on this planet, you're feeling sad and hurt. The world isn't out to get you. It only feels that way.

As children, often times when we chased the rainbow in search of the pot-o-gold, it wasn't the pot-o-gold that we found. Some days we walked home disappointed but most of the time we had many wonderful adventures and made other discoveries, while meeting great people along the way. So keep your eyes open and your heart light; it improves your vision.